Sometimes a question will just leap out from the page to bring forth a multitude of tumultuous thoughts. That is what this one did for me. I have 6 grandchildren from my own sons, and five from my husband’s family. Then I have 6 more from 2nd wives of my sons after they were divorced and remarried. Another grandson was adopted out 30 years ago, and yet another grandson drowned at 18.
The ones that I had the closest contact to turn out to be the ones that have had problems with their parents because of divorce. A strong bond is formed when a child and a grand parent have to face difficult situations together.
So all of these children will remember me in different ways. Mostly they will remember the grandma who loved the mountains, who lived on the IPad and loved to write. That is why I published my first book, so that they would get to know me better. Some of them will remember me as Grandpa’s second wife, and that’s really grown more loving with time and experiences. Almost all of my grandchildren live a long distance from me, and I have very little physical contact with them. But e-mails, phones, and Facebook can be a wonderful thing. I can keep track of their families, even tho sometimes I shake my head, watching their lives go by.
And there are some grandchildren who still end their calls or notes with “No Matter What”! They will remember that I was there for them when they really needed me, when their whole world was shattered, and these relationships have lasted twenty years and more, and grown ever stronger. Because of them I feel that I was in the right place at the right time, and did what needed to be done.
I am really fortunate to have all of our extended families, and I hope they will remember me fondly, no matter what. I have been lucky to have all of our grandchildren to love and to cherish.